I am struck by how relevant this is to our coaching: 

• We are not there to lead, instruct or fix.

• We are there at the client’s invitation - to accompany.

 To join them without taking over.

To be present and to listen without imposing interpretation or judgement.

To speak without closing down their meaning.

 At my best, I look to show restraint, presence, and self-awareness. When I am present to my client in this way, I am shaped as well.

 And the gift of clarity, insight and understanding that follows is reciprocated.

Later, I reflected on that moment and was reminded of how deeply we’re drawn to connection—and how conversation, whether light or meaningful, opens the door to that connection.

As coaches, we learn that conversation is the catalyst for creating trust and partnership. It’s how we explore possibilities without judgement, find our power and agency, and where clarity takes shape. Through purposeful conversation, insight turns into commitment, and commitment leads to action.

 Whether it’s talk around a coffee house table or a deep exchange with a client, conversation is the path that brings us together—and moves us forward.

I often felt unsettled—my attention drifting as doubt crept in around my ability to respond. I’ve heard from other coaches that this experience is not uncommon.

Over time, I’ve come to understand that my role as a coach isn’t to resolve uncertainty, but to create space and steady ground so clients can move forward without needing the entire roadmap. Sharing in their uncertainty—rather than trying to fix it—deepens trust and allows the right questions and insights to emerge naturally.

 I’d like to hear from other coaches, new or experienced: have you faced this challenge as well, and how did it shape your growth?